I'm seeing and understand a number of things in this equation has changed, you've removed yourself, OW's H is ending the marriage by filing a divorce..
YET, think about it, on the other hand, usually when a person actually gets what they want they find it was NOT what they wanted all along...and end up coming back to what they left...it would NOT be settling, as what they left was the best thing they had, but could NOT see that because of the fog....but the light of reality can be an interesting thing.
In this, it LOOKS like both have gotten what they want, BUT it may be enough to dissolve this affair.
Before, each one has had their respective wife/husband to fall back on...now they have NOTHING to fall back on, but this false romance....that should scare BOTH of them senseless.
I was reflecting on this yesterday, and I realized that this might be what drives your husband BACK toward you....OW is a total mess, and may be TOO much for him to handle...we can only hope this is the case.
I've been continuing to pray on this.
Something you can do; you can pray what's called a "hedge of thorns" around your husband...Tipper had an interesting post sometime back about doing that concerning a spouse within an affair. It's biblical based...I'd never heard of it until I saw her post.
In effect, you ask the Lord to place a "hedge of thorns" around the wayward spouse, making them unreachable, and turning the heart of the OW/OM AWAY from them, as well as turning their own heart away from the OW/OM.
The only requirement is to have FAITH and BELIEF that it will work, and give the Lord His time to work on the wayward spouse.
I can remember praying for the Lord to work within my husband's heart regarding his love for me at one time. And it worked..He sent my husband dreams that he spoke of, but would not tell the details..they must have been pretty steamy/romantic, from the blush I saw on his face as he just mentioned them in passing. Of course, I did NOT tell him what I'd been praying for.
Gotta run, got more stuff to unload today.
Later; everybody..Mila, things are fine at this time; continue to wait and watch.
(((((HUGS)))))
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
