embracing change

[Geomom]

flowmom, I've been thinking the same thoughts over and over in my head, and I'm left with this: in retrospect, there were so many warning signs of H going through a MLC (and EA/PA) -- waking up in the middle of the night and sitting for hours in the living room rocking chair with his Blackberry, buying expensive new exercise equipment then never using it, losing interest in everything home-related. (I was sad to realize a couple of days ago, for example, that this was the first year in five years H hasn't taken our son to the local annual Monster Truck show -- that's been their special Daddy-son outing since our boy was 2. He never even brought it up.)

So here's my question: is there any way someone else can help someone deal with an MLC before it reaches a crisis point, or is this something he has to figure out all on his own? I don't know the answer. All I know is that, even if I had transformed myself into some kind of Stepford wife, I don't think it would have kept him from going where he went.