I discovered H affair in January. Asked him to stop. He doesn't want to do cold turkey. He wants to phase her out. Why? Why does he owe more to this woman than he does to me? He says he loves me and that she and him are "just friends" now, he isn't leaving me for her, he won't wind up with her if our marriage can't be saved, etc, etc. I've made it clear that I won't stay if she's still apart of his life. Can any unfaithful spouses out there help me understand why its so hard for him to give the OW up?
When you are happy as an individual, you are in a better position to determine whether a partner enhances your happy life or weighs it down.
