Miss H, these people see no shame nor wrong in anything they do. In their minds, they are entitled to whatever they want and they have no responsibilities. I would drop the hammer on him hard and ask for an increase in support, have no sympathy and take all you can! What does your attorney say about asking for an increase? He really tipped his hand when he said the OW is a full time student, he just admitted he was paying for everything, therefore, he couldn't have taken a cut in pay.