My W commented that I'm being a better companion these days. I'm orienting my days around her. I'll have to be careful that I don't become a "lap dog", as has been suggested.
Last night while Salsa dancing, a former teacher noted how uninhibited I've become. I was a student of hers about two years ago.
My W and I have our dance performance at the studio tonight. I'm using a technique suggested by the teacher of having a personal secret I want to convey to the audience. I'm the best dancer in this group, so my secret is to tell myself that during the performance. Otherwise, one worries about screwing-up and imperfections. My W and I are prepared, so now what's left is the mental approach.
I've decided that moving forward is being more public about my R with my W. Our former dance teacher asked me if my W and I still live together. I told her yes, and left it at that.
I clarified with my W why she wants me to take swimming lessons. She imagines us floating together out in the ocean. This terrifies me, as I use a flotation device. She wants me to learn how to at least tread water. That seems like a reasonable goal.
A comment (a 2X4 that made contact) observed that I don't make time for others. I decided that I was behaving too much like a single person in a M, which was consistent with my GAL approach last year. I've decided that I need to start acting like a H, even with the recent boundary violation, and my emotional reactions.
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CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
