Hi G, The two-country thing has always been a struggle for us, most of all my H who really gave up his homeland more than I ever did. We've spent 5 years in his country collectively, the other 10 in mine. OW is, symobolically, HOME. From what I understand MLC = unresolved childhood issues + depression. But he is not MLC in that he is not going to the gym, buying clothes, wanting a nice car, mood swings... That's how DR describes the symptoms & that's definately not my H.
My has is more consistent, looks like crap, has started chaing smoking. So, I dunno, I tend to call what's happening to him a crisis or breakdown. He calls it a revolution.
G, I want to hear more about how your husband changed over time and how the Bomb came? It's really interesting he wasn't looking at you. Fear, disgust, what do you think? One of my prenatal psych's said some men find their women sexually repulsive when they are pregnant (sorry if this is harsh - I was shocked when he suggested it to me). Did you have sex post pregnancy? Again, sorry to be blunt, this is what my pysch asked me to try and figure out WAH. Do you know what I replied? "I cannot remember!". God, what does that say about our sex lives or where my head was at? I hope we had sex...we were about to be apart for 3 months...You'd hope so!!
I don't think he ever faked any "I love you's". A couple of times he has said he did when I brought it up later, but I fully put that down to re-writing history.
At what point in your story did WAH send you the "I miss you" sms?
Yes, I hope over time the come around. You said you and your H haven't spoke for 2 months? I need to go back to your sitch. That's where I was one month ago....as the birth approaches what are you expecting? Do you think he'll start to panic about not being at all involved -- other than financially, that is?
