just caught your thread and hope you don't mind me chipping in!
My situation was similar as it was suddenly out of the blue after nearly thirty years, and my H moved out after giving me hell for three months! Ok not two countries but two counties hard enough when I'd seen him every day for so long. I originally agreed not to talk to him for the first two weeks, he popped back and forth a couple of times but due to circumstances I actually managed to go nc for a month! It nearly killed me but if he phoned he got precious little but basic facts! It's very hard but you need to stop pursuing her, leave her to realise what this choice means, as you said the original dates set up to keep her busy will frizzle out then she will have to make her own!
Ok you have a lot of space between you already, but ironically you have to put more. Yes I know it feels like you are giving them what they want but it has to be done!
Next time she is due to call chat quickly and briefly as if you need to be some where else, then say you gotta go as off out! That will have a hndered times more impact than I miss you, she doesn't want to hear that!
Will try and pop back later (())
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