Quote: Odga is right, he is on his own rollercoaster. I know it is his own doing, but right now his emotions, though possibly hidden from you, are also a mess. Give him this gift of time and space to work them out while he is with yoou. How would he expect you to react to the night? What would a 180 be? Not saying anything? Asking if he had fun? Just cook a great dinner tonight, if that is the norm, and make him miss coming home after work.
This is your gift to him...time and understanding.
I just don't know what to say today. H is the same guy he was when H left, I guess I shouldn't expect everything to just CHANGE now that H is home. H has been struggling this last week, I can see it and feel it. I know H needs time and space and me to be his friend, no expectations. H is still very confused. I do feel good in the fact that H is home. That does give me some comfort and the fact that H did come home and everything that lead up to it was an indication that H wants to be here.
I'm sure H had no idea on how it would actually feel once he was out of OW's house. Tuesday night I could see that he was kind of depressed, had a stay away from me attitude. If in fact he was having a few beers, it could have just been a lie to get himself to OW's. When I see him tonight, his face will show me where he really was and what H was doing, he couldn't have shaved and will have the same clothes on I'm sure.
Thank you Jackie for your kind words.
I will have dinner for us, my shows are on tonight. More than likely H will go to bed early anyways and that will give us both space. I'm not going to yell, I just don't feel like it, I'm detached from him. H screwed up knows he screwed up and I can't do anything about it can I?
That's if all if his stuff isn't moved back out...
