Going straight forward...antlers 6th thread.

[ImprovedRomeo]

antlers, you posted such wise words in my thread that I wanted to come and read your sitch. I'm sorry you're going through a rough patch. I know what you're going through with the legal paperwork and the uneasiness about the laws etc. I'm in the same boat, I have a child-custody mediation date of May 12th and then a court hearing date on May 24th. I absolutely have no idea what's going to happen on those dates but I know I'll survive. Whatever life throws at me I'll stand up and take it and some day I'll be able to look back and tell my grand kids about my own 'war' stories.

As for what else you could've done? really nothing! it's a two way street, one single person can't fix it alone. She has to be willing to work on it with you but she has no desire or the strength. She'd rather take the cowardly approach of cut-and-run. Just know that one day she'll realize what she did, just not right now. So stand tall for all that you did for your M and her and the kids and be proud! those of us that know what it takes to do that understand that it takes utmost determination and will...so the heck with those that won't appreciate it.

While it's not a good idea to hope that after D is final she'll come back but that's always a possibility. D doesn't mean an end of you two forever, it just means the end for now. So for now just focus on getting it done and getting it off your plate.

Just do your best and forget the rest.