Husband left me 3 months pregnant...

[newmama]

Babydoll....your H's paternal instinct is kicking in. I think I read somewhere that fathers "nest" too...so all of that stuff he is doing could be part of nesting.

I think there is NO WAY you could detach from him right now! No matter how much you wanted to! It is probably just physically (seriously I mean hormonally) impossible.

So am wondering...is there a strategy for accepting that you love someone who "thinks" he doesn't love you in the same way? Because realistically you won't be able to stop your feelings for him right now. BUt you are also trying to think of your baby and include him in his life as his father.

I guess this next week will be a test as to what is too much for you and what is tolerable (because aren't you starting labor classes?)

It's like that pain scale with the different faces and you rate your pain from 1-10. Obviously the thought of your H won't get you to a low level like a 1. But if your lowest rating could be a 6, and it goes up to 10, then what things will you be able to tolerate, knowing the pain will be there.

I am so sorry- I hope this makes sense.