Great advice Ellie. That would definitely be a 180, and I bet it blows his mind.
Hey Cathy, Something I've been meaning to say, but haven't. There will come a time when he will need to start explaining where he was and what he is doing. He will have to earn your trust again, and there are tools to do that. The Piecing Ladies on the board will be able to help with that too.
You're not there yet, but don't give up hope. I don't exactly know when you can ask that of him, but first things first. Let's get him comfy at home, and when he is feeling more stable, you can work on the next goals.
For now, plan what you're doing tonight!
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