Mal~That was the most wonderful post I've read in a long time! WOW it was great!
Cathy, I agree with MAL, no matter what happens be supportive to your H, smile even when you feel like crying. You are being tested and like Mal said he is watching for your reaction!
You CAN DO this! I know you can. I think what makes most M here successful is the support we get from each other! I believe this with all my heart!