MAL, I think I'm losing H already and it hasn't even been a full week, yet.
Quote: Does your H seem like himself? Does he seem depressed? Many times when they are coming away from an A, they have a hard time of letting go of OW. And when they try, they go into a deep depression. The link between them is very hard to break. But obviously, if your H is home, that link IS BREAKABLE -- thank goodness, huh?
My H also came home from work late, no calls. Even after I told him that was one of the things that I needed from him. I found that my needs were not as important as his. When I saw that your H came home late, my first thought was "Was he working or with her?" Of course, you answered that in your next sentence.
I don't think my H ever made a clean break from OW, and never completely invested himself back into our M. Because of that, I lost him again.
Like what you are experiencing, we also didn't spend any time together, other than watching a movie one night. No dates, no time to rebuild our M. We did go to one C session though. Again, with my H, that was him trying to get settled back into our M, and trying to let go of the R with the OW.
I did no R talks, and never asked about OW. It seemed to be important to him to have the space he needed to adjust. He told me he needed some time. When we finally did have R talks, they were initiated by him, and it was obvious that he was ready to share with me.
I did say ILY, but he never returned it. That really hurt. If you do decide to say that, he may not return it. I hope he does, but be prepared either way okay?
You said if H was home, then the link is breakable, well obviously not. Where IS he!!!
As you probably read, H isn't here, didn't come home tonight. This is sooo hard, so damn hard right now, I have no idea what to say when H does call if H does call. I picture coming home from work and find EVERYTHING gone this time.
Now I have to go into work looking like sh*t, feeling like crap and having to start this crap all over again.
