Thinking About Life after Divorce

[Gardener]

Thinker,

I keep hearing two statstically based recommendations:
1) You should wait at least a year after a d before getting involved in a new R.
2) It takes 3-5 years after the end of a significant R before you can comfortably exist in a new one without the old one impinging.
Any comments?
From what point do the stats measure these things? From the bomb? From the point where the LBS gives up? From the final divorce decree?

I'm all about 1) wait a year. I am not relationship-ready (sometimes wonder if I'm casual-dating ready!) One year alone. Just me. Rediscovering me and healing me. I gave your second point some real thought a while back: The Bomb? When she left? When she said she wanted a D? I'm going with the D date (2/09), but I'll remain open to serendipitous possibilities. Like I've said many times, I'm not gonna go looking. Just gonna live my life and see who shows up.