I don't like the sound of you saying that your son will be "ruined for life". YOU are the one there to make sure that doesn't happen. You have to be strong and know that your mission is to make sure your son is NOT ruined for life. YOU have to be his rock and be a positive force for him. You can do that no matter what your situation is with your h.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
