Let me know your thoughts on the ATT bill as well as the email I sent last week. If you prefer we can discuss it in person or at least I'd prefer it that way. Just let me know."
How about "...I would prefer that we discuss these matters in person, please let me know when would be a convenient time for you" Don't leave everything to what she would prefer. If you want something say YOU want it, let her be the bad guy by saying no or ignoring it. Try not to be too accommodating, my guess is that is part of what got you here in the first place (and I say that as the Accommodation King myself!). She won't appreciate it but will take it for granted and probably already has for years. We think by being nice, tolerant, overly flexible that it will be received and responded to with respect and appreciation. WRONG! It gives them the impression that they are still in the drivers seat and can do whatever they want. Just little changes in the way you relate to her can make a difference in the outcome of this whole thing. It's not a matter of either going dark or being ultra considerate. Am I in the ball park here or just swinging blindly?
