shelbel, I understand your freaking out about the disappearing posts ... definitely messed with my head in my case.
Here's what happened gr8: I had just posted a response to the mysterious user (registered just days before, and this was his/her first post ... suspicious enough right there, yes?) then went back a few minutes later to re-read. I was so confused because my latest post wasn't there, so I tried refreshing the page. Still nothing. Both my latest and the other person's post (it was "Fireball" or "Firebell" from "Salt Lake City") were gone.
Yes, freaky indeed.
H 42 Me 47 DS 7 T 18 M 16 Bomb: 4/20/10 H leaves to live at Mom's: 4/30/20
My sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1990503#Post1990503