It is absolutely infuriating, but please try to have faith that it's not over until it's over (and even then I'm not so sure!). We've all heard our WAW's say all sorts of absolute negative stuff. I swear it's some sort of instinctive testing. My W was so negative, so absolutely certain in her direction, yet I could detect little hesitations now and then. At first I pointed them out, but I quickly learned that only made her more determined to erradicate them, or at least hide them. So I learned to just passively observe and make no comment. I've heard so many of the classic WAW lines "I don't love you like I should", "I'm not attracted to you", "Our M was never was it was supposed to be", "There is no going back for me".
The best thing you can do for yourself and your M is to LET IT GO. You don't have to think of it as forever, as that's too emotionally devastating. Give yourself the gift of letting it go for a while, say a month. I know you're in so much emotional pain, and if you could just fix it the pain would go away, but there is no easy and quick fix. These things play out over long periods. In my sitch, finally after a year and a half, my W is saying just the opposite, like "I never lost my love for you completely", "I don't want a divorce", "I'm attracted to you again", and she's making sexual overtures as well. When did she really turn the corner? When I finally LET IT GO, and I don't mean ACTED like I let it go, I mean really let it go. Tattoo_you, you were fine before you met your W, she doesn't hold some magical power to make your life whole. You're just experiencing the withdrawal from co-dependence. It's real and it's been shown to be just as hard as withdrawal from drugs. It will subside.
