Hi Cathy, I haven't quite caught up yet, but what I read so far about the digs H has been making jarred my memory. Your H is making these remarks because he is expecting a certain kind of reaction from you. The reason why is really irrelevant to you. You just want the cycle to stop.
I forget where I read it ... may had been on the of the stories in Michelle's book or here on the board, but there was one couple where one took offense of the other's comments, but he kept making them. The way to break the cycle instead of giving what he expect, surprise the ever-livin sh*t out of him! Now I don't normally use such phrases, but that is the kind of shock value you want to accomplish here. In the case, I read about the next time she was insulted by her H, she planted a big wet juicy one on his lips. Her response to his shocked expression was ... everytime you insult me, I'm going plant one of those on you. It didn't take long after getting a number of those that he stopped, because he wasn't getting the reaction he was looking for.
It just might take doing something this radical with such a shock value to get him to break cycle. Also, will go a long way in convincing him you have definately have changed and he doesn't know as well as he thought. Those comments he makes about "moving out again" may disappear too as he then figures he is gonna have to stick around to find out who you really are now.
