Do you really think that me staying out of her way and living my own life will make her want to try to save the M? Even if it means taking steps (like therapy) that she really does not want to take?
I am not sure that will work. Test things and see what works.
The key is making POSITIVE CHANGES to your life. Positive changes to you thoughts, words, actions, beliefs, looks, the way you interact etc...
It is important to project yourself "different". I strongly recommend spending some time in the self help section of a book store. I have read 50+ self help books since the bomb. Pick something you want to improve, then start reading.
Do you know why she does not "feel like it"? I do. I learned the hard way. The man she has "feelings" for might....."she comes first" is a good book that you may want to read. "The art of seduction" is another.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
