I keep hearing two statstically based recommendations:
1) You should wait at least a year after a d before getting involved in a new R.
2) It takes 3-5 years after the end of a significant R before you can comfortably exist in a new one without the old one impinging.
Any comments?
From what point do the stats measure these things? From the bomb? From the point where the LBS gives up? From the final divorce decree?
I am not really sure when the stats start measuring things but I do have to say even though I went through a lot prior to the divorce(2years of cr@p) I still wasn't ready to be wiith anyone else. I thought I was but looking back...I wasn't. I suggest you get really comfortable with yourself again.
The "guidelines I heard was 1 month for every year of marriage. That just about fit my timeline. However I believe everyone is different. Don't be in a rush. So I am currently 21 months post divorce and only really started getting out about a month and a half ago. We were married 19 years. Oh and having primary custody of 4 kids doesn' make that any easier.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
