And at that point, when you have let them go live their fairy tale life and worked on healing yourself, that is when the WAS may look back to see why you aren't chasing them anymore. And they may (I say may because the WAS has the free will to just never look back even if we hate that thought) look back and see that a strong, desirable individual has replaced their clingy, distressed and depressed spouse.
BobbiJo
thanks for your explanation. i'm not looking to hear what i want to hear. but your explanation provided me some hope along with a dose of reality (the possibility that he may never look back to see the new me).
