No you don't need to pay him back- you said he could take it out of the childcare payments, right? Odds are he won't.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Yeah, I said he could take it from the payments in the future for the fact that it will probably take another month for things to switch over. (You know how slow bureaucracies are.)
So it leaves 2 months from the past.
But it's ok. It's just part of what happened in the turnover. He didn't notice, and I didn't, so. . . oh well.
No! dont pay him back... dont offer! you wouldnt be in the predicament if it werent for his actions! Besides, tell him he paid for a car that drives his unborn child back and forth to baby doctors and so on.
the nerve! Sounds like he just wanted some attention and didnt know how to reach out!
Yeah, I got kinda mad at him again last night (based on a dream i had! :)) so I was like "no way am I paying him back for that!"
i'm in the same place P was a couple weeks ago. . . 5 weeks out! This is going rather fast. I don't think I know what is happening. I'm watching Bringing Home Baby to try to understand what is happening. But, I think I'm going to be shocked!
Dreams...they sure do leave us feeling like they really happened sometimes! About the show Bringing Home Baby- I totally watched it and at least for me, it was pretty realistic!
The sleep deprivation is tough and the baby cried a lot (but not as much as some) just because he was hungry or tired!
Do you plan on breastfeeding? Just to give you a heads up (I did for 5 months) if they do end up suggesting you supplement with formula in the hospital while your milk comes in, don't be afraid that she will get nipple confusion. My friends went through the supplementation and their babies latched on and were avid nursers. Mine did the same thing! Of course it is your personal choice but between myfriends and I, that is a group of 5 women who had 100% nursing success! My milk came in full force on day 3.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Thanks Newmama! I just want to keep thinking baby stuff so that I get mentally ready!
I have heard that there would be nipple confusion. I'm glad that you have evidence of none in those sitches. I plan on breastfeeding, but of course I'm nervous about how it all will pan out. Breastfeeding class on Saturday, though!
I hope you find your class useful- good job focusing on baby stuff!! I really don't mean to come across all "know it all" because I am NOT! But the Dr. Sears "Baby Book" was/is my baby bible regarding reference when I had so many q's. I highly recommend a book like that!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Nipple confusion? Hmm. I didn't know I might be offered formula in the hospital, but I can't see why it should be refused if bub needs it. Gotta be practical. Bringing Home Baby. Haven't heard of that one. Do you have the book Baby Love, in the States?
Dr. Sears baby book. Will check it out for sure. And Baby Love, we've got to have it, don't we? I'll look for that, too.
Since we're recommending, I've got to recommend the Baby Whisperer for getting babies on a good but flexible schedule (and learning to listen to them), and then also the Happiest Baby on the Block for colicky newborns.
I've got pregnancy photos tomorrow (should be fun!) so I'm going shopping tonight for something really cute to wear. I hate shopping, so I hope I find something quickly.
I got the first child support check in the mail. He did leave a little note in it that said, "I hope this finds you well. We are coming up on your first Mother's Day."
He's still using the checks that have my name on them and our old address. . . so weird.
I'm glad that he said something for Mother's Day (wondered if he would), but I am still getting increasingly frustrated that he's not participating other than to wish me well. But I'm staying positive, staying positive.
me, 30 WH, 29 D born June 2010 M: July 2001 Bomb/S: 1/14/10 Done with it all.
That note was sweet of your H...considering the sitch! orI bet your prgnancy photos will turn out well. Good for you for getting them done in the midst of all this! I only have like 4 pictures of me pregnant. WH is the photographer usually and gee, he just wasn't that into my pregnancy til I kicked him out! (3rd trimester too)
Sorry I always need to say something about my sitch don't I? LOL! About shopping- just think; in a couple of months you will have your little baby girl in tow! With a car seat in your car, and the carrier in your shopping cart and everyone will stop and look and tell you how precious she is!!!! It is the best!
Oh and the Baby Whisperer rocks! I never did find out what type of baby S is (a blend) but the routines she lays out are terrific! I heard good things about the other book, too!
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me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
