Deep, dark, ugly thoughts that I don't want

[june72]

OK, RHW- haha! I was waiting for the opportunity!

So, I get a phone call. Darn, call waiting, I didn't get to check the caller ID otherwise I never would have answered.

So if was the, IDK, girlfiend/wife/assistant/who knows girl that was part of the crew apologizing about all of this and so sorry to show up announced.

I mean what a champ- the man acks like a complete ass but has girl call and apoligize and basically plead and beg for the work. It was so uncomfortable. It was ackword.


I was nice and polite and apologetic, I am so sorry but it's best if we leave the house the way it is. Etc., etc.


So then she states, well Jeff has OCD and gets very passionate about it if anyone mentions it in conversation. (The guy did flip his lid, he was beligeriently (sp?) DEMANDING that I provide him with a definition of OCD) Yeah, crazy, huh?

See stated maybe you could understand how he has that disorder and has to deal with....blah, blah, blah. Whatever.


Finally got her off the phone and spoke to my step-father. Who is really crappy and sulky and generally not the nicest person to be around. Honestly, prickish. Mean-spirited. Because I was desperate to vent and honestly cry to a person who knew my mother and her behavior.

Shocked, b/c my step-father was amazing and kind and sweet. And totally agreed that my mother is the nut job she is. And I need to set firmer boundaries. He was actually shocked by some of the things she has done in the past.


So my mother happened to me be in the area and was to stop by. So I let her know of all that happened and that this man stated that she had told him that "my daughter will agree to painting the rest of the house once you start".


She of course lied and lied and lied some more and then stated "you have a lotof time to think and be angry, don't you?"
She loves to patronize me.

Whatever do you me dear? I would never do such a thing, etc. etc.


Lies, lies, lies! That is all I ever get out of her. Lies to everyone she knows and does it will a smile and turn it on you. Way she is.


So I explained boundaries to her again, etc. And her response is "how long are you going to talk about this?"

I know this, she will acknowledge nothing and act as if you are crazy. Really it emotional abuse in my book to act like the other person is crazy. Esp. with the craziness she pulls out.


So anyhow, she states annoyed "why aren't you dressed yet?" UGG!!!

I tell her I was cleaning and about to shower when these people arrived and have not had the chance. Then she complains it's "unpleasant" to visit someones house and see someone in their PJ's still.

Then I state listen I have to feed my son now, his lunch is ready, come into the kitchen with me. (I can not leave her alone for a second b/c she "cleans" and rearranges stuff in my house all the time!!!)

So then she states, "You need to shower now and then feed your son"

To which I respond, No, the lunch is ready now and it is late for lunch anyhow.


Then in the kitchen it doesn't end.


I state- you need to respect and learn boundaries. You can not continue to do the behaviors you do. I am tired or you demanding i shower , etc, have a cleaner house, yada, yada, yada.


To which she states, "I simply ASKED you to shower." Lying again, she knows it and I know it.
I responded, no- it happened 5 minutes ago and you demanded that I shower...

It goes downhill.


I immediately realize that arguing with a person who lies all the time is pointless. A person that never, ever apologizes or admits to wrong doings is pointless.

I tell her it's time to go, she refuses several times. I am polite not nasty the whole time asking her to leave.

I mean I feel jerky doing it but I need my sanity.


So I walk her to the down and she starts cleaning my foyer. To which I ask her to stop and she does not. This is her routine. I usually have to take her hands and hold them and state stop. Like she is a child and guide her to the door. B/c she does it everytime.

IF the foyer is clean and there is nothing to do she will start to rearrange things in the foyer. I mean really, really maddening behavior.


So I finally blow a gasket and tell her, How many times do I have to tell you to stop cleaning the foyer?


When I ask you to leave you have to leave...


Oh boy, kiddos again.