Just found out she already filed

[alice444]

'...she was playing outside and very happy. I told her that I would pick her up early today and she let me leave after just a few minutes. She seemed much better!"

So basically, she's telling me there's no problem and I may be a nutcase to even think that way- big surprise there!

SR- check that again- she said "she seemed much better," validating that you said she was upset earlier. She didn't say or imply you're crazy- Is it possible you're ready to read negative stuff into neutral things she says, maybe b/c in the past she's said negative things? My H is like that with me- I can say the most neutral thing and he takes it as criticism. I just mention it b/c there may be a reason for it from the past, but try to read/hear it for what it is, so you're less likely to be reactive about it-- It can only help communication between you guys-

I would contact her again re: mediation if I were you. You will end up paying much of the money you'll be "fighting for" to the L's if you go the traditional route. Remember D and how this will affect her- if you guys do this the nasty way, even if you don't think you're being nasty, your L's job is to make your W look bad and fight for everything he can and vice versa. I think that can end up causing much worse problems- if you guys need to continue to co-parent peacefully, I would "fight" to do collaborative or mediation, both to save money and preserve whatever positive relations you guys have. So call her if she hasn't responded to your email- or text her if she only does texts. I think this is really important--

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