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You can focus on what's missing in your life and be miserable or you can focus on what you have and feel blessed.

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You need to become a solution detective and figure out how you and your spouse act, think & feel when things are going right.

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Strike while the iron is cold. We often lose site of our relationship goals in the heat of an argument. Take a timeout before confronting an issue.

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Act as if: do all the things you would do if you were convinced of a positive outcome. Then watch the results.

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Five right and five wrong reasons to marry: http://www.bellinghamherald.com/2010/05/13/1429056/yikes-did-you-marry-for-the-wrong.html

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If you want to stay in love with your spouse, you have to continue to do loving things every day.

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I have some catching up to do, it seems!

Golden rule of marriage # 1: relationships need attention. This means making it a priority- spending time together- talking and touching.

Golden rule of marriage # 2: conflict is inevitable- The couples I worry about most are the ones where 1 spouse continually buries emotions.

Golden rule of marriage # 3: people can change -I've seen even the most troubled marriages improve. It's never too late.

Golden rule of marriage #4: men & women communicate differently. Gender differences often account for miscommunication/emotional disconnection.

Golden rule of marriage # 5: nagging is an attempt to make things better. When one spouse gives up, nagging ends. Divorce is in the works.

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Infidelity Tip: Rather than lick your wounds & pull away, it's helpful to discuss your feelings with your spouse.

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Infidelity Tip: Ask your partner to make him/herself available to you. You need to have healing time together when NOT discussing the affair

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Infidelity Tip: Ask for reassurances. Regardless of when or why you feel uncertain, you are entitled to have your spouse reassure you.