I think the above might actually be better for HER, for the reasons I state.
I also think that you come across here as being SO worried about this stuff (and I'm not saying unjustifiably so), that maybe it'd be better for YOU, too. Because for some people, "snooping" isn't healthy, but for others, it can hardly be worse than what you're imagining in your worried state. And you strike me as one of those, just sayin'.
