There are 3 options: work on the marriage (with a transparency and no contact with OM agreement in place), separate/divorce, or limbo. She will definitely take limbo, but you don't want that. Give her the two other options and let her choose.
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Are you wrong for waiting? Depends on why you are waiting. If you are not ready to deliver the message yet, and are still getting your ducks in a row, then fine.
I'm being as honest with you, and therefore myself, as I can be. I really do enjoy the stress free atmosphere that has been here the last two days. I do realize it has only been two days and I know it can and will change without warning. I am getting my ducks in a row and practicing what to tell her and how to say it. I am taking Coach's suggestions as well as yours and others I have read here. I need the presentation to be 100%, dead on right.
BTW, Coach's new thread is great. I have to practice what he preaches.
Detachment does take time and it has been long enough for me.
I told W the other night that she needed to tell her parents what was going on so they wouldn't continue to wonder why I wasn't at family events. I heard her talking to her sister on the phone last night that she was going to tell them today. Good. I will have my chance to tell them my side. Not to try and turn them against their daughter, only that I am willing to do anything to save the marriage, this is her decision, and if it means letting go, I guess I will do that too. I don't think they will be very supportive of her actions, but you never know.
Plans for this weekend:
I am taking the kids to see Iron Man 2. They have been begging to see it.
Taking them fishing. They all love to fish.
Having a picnic after church on Sunday and taking their bikes and scooters for them to ride.
They wish Mom would come, but she has a track meet all day Sat and works until 2:00pm on Sunday. Oh, well. Her loss.
