Last night was pretty pleasant. W told me her plans for track meet today, her work schedule, which is messed up, and had supper ready for me when I got home. No R talk at all. Relaxed is the best word I can think of.
I'm sure there is some ulterior motive. At the same time, it was nice. I have been practicing my response in my "voice" and am getting closer to actually feeling it than faking it. I will give her a choice, not the other way around.
Am I wrong for waiting? I don't know. Believe me, I am not being lulled asleep by her good behaviour, but, if only for a few days, the house is much more enjoyable.
Doesn't surprise me that she wouldn't bring the topic up, as it has serious living arrangement consequences for her.
She'll be happy to live in limbo and see the OM when she wants, if that is indeed what she's doing.
Are you wrong for waiting? Depends on why you are waiting. If you are not ready to deliver the message yet, and are still getting your ducks in a row, then fine. If you are waiting for her to make a move, then you may be waiting a long time, since she probably WON'T make a move. No reason to. She can cake eat.
There are 3 options: work on the marriage (with a transparency and no contact with OM agreement in place), separate/divorce, or limbo. She will definitely take limbo, but you don't want that. Give her the two other options and let her choose.
If she agrees to work on the marriage, tell her the OM has to be out of the picture for you to accept it. Then ask her what she is willing to do to prove the OM is out of the picture. Then you can tell her what you need to be comfortable that the proof is sufficient.
WAW Using God Me-43 W-40 M-14 S-11 S-9 D-7 EABomb 5/09 Separated 12/09
