Just found out she already filed

[antlers]

I really want to tell her about DD and what happened this morning...I want her to see and feel the guilt of the destruction she's causing. I so hate her right now.

I know how you feel...but she's already convinced herself that what she's doing is just fine...and she's gonna continue to convince herself of that. NOTHING that you say or do will change her mind. She says and does things based on what she 'wants' them to be, instead of what they 'are'. WAS are the most selfish people on the planet. They are able to justify everything they do, regardless of how truly destructive it actually is.
I agree with what the other poster said...focus on YOU...not her.