But part of my problem is my H is home. I really don't expect things. I have been on this rollercoaster for many years already. At least 3 maybe more. My part in all of this was that I would try and fix everything by using control and threats. There have been many time I wanted to throw in the towel and leave but I am older this time and can recognize that If I do not change this will repeat itself over again. After reading the DBing books, these have been a real eye opener for me. I am still not sure where my H falls in MLC if perhaps he is one of those that goes in and out or not. Counseling taught me that co-dependants usually marry other co-dependents and that has help my perspective greatly. I am just afraid H wants me to go so that I can help him make decision or tell him it is not a good decision as I would have in the past. I feel it is real important for me to step back and let this be all on him.
