Thanks for sharing this, I do need to remember all of this, a bit overwhelming, but it will definitely to "memorize" all of this.
So I'm wondering how I should have reacted after this conversation with H not too long ago..
H's niece lives not to far from us and so I suggested to H that we should invite her over for dinner some night when SS is here as they are cousins. My H said what for? I said it would just be a nice get together. I then said to H, "Oh didn't I tell you know I now have parties" to which H responded "didn't I tell you I still go to S&B (his bar) once a twice a week. I said oh good I can stop in, to which H said, then you can OW she bartends there, I said she does, he just kind of smiled and said yep. Then he said maybe you two should meet. I said no thanks. Then H said, you can kill each other and then I won't have to worry about either of you!!
What an assanine this to say!! What a jerk!!! I was so stunned I turned back to the the stove where I was cooking dinner and H went to play with son. When H came back to dinner he was much more pleasant even said thank you for making dinner...so do you think he felt bad about our conversation? I would certainly hope so!!!
I should have responded "oh yes it would probably be a good idea to meet then I can tell her that we've been having sex the whole time H's been living with YOU!!
What do you I say when H says stuff like this? I know he's only been home shortly, but I don't know if I can take these digs. Up until H moved back he rarely referred to OW by name, it was always HER. Do I keep my mouth shut, keep acting as if?
We were deciding what stuff was going to go to good will and H said something like "no that's coming with me when I move?" I said what? Why did you say that? H said because I'm moving out...he then said those his in my possession before we met.
Do you think he moved back because of some little plan H and OW have to get me to throw H out so that he won't look so bad if we do divorce? I think someone said to me once "don't be surprised if H moves back in, a lawyer would tell H that especially if H just moved out on us...Am having runaway thoughts tonight? Like I said some stuff is still at OW's he has her garage door opener and house key.
Or should I blame the way he's acting today on the alien in him? I mean it's like we are in our Monday ritual of him testing me...Don't believe anything they say alien mode tonight????
