See, this is where I wonder how do you erase all the memory of the hurt and lies and trust in him in the future. How can you live with triggers for the rest of your days. Esp. if he is not 100% reassuring you.

I am just thinking here...not saying that being with him is right or wrong.

I just don't know if could move on from all the damage. But that's how I work, I know people can do all sorts of things.

I bet there are great people on here who can advise you on how to get what you need from your relationship.


M38, H37
S3, S7
Together 15 yrs
Married 8 yrs
Bomb July 2008
Inhouse separation
"I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count)
Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)