MLC is a horrible thing to live through...and I am not saying for you. For you? It sucks...for the MLCer? Their world shattered.
While the LBS can wallow...it is better for them to do like you said you have done...make improvements. Good on you by the way. See the destiny of the marriage is REALLY in the LBS hands.
When the MLCers comes out of their MLC...and looks around...
It is up the the LBSer if the MLCers sees them.
It is up to you Still.
May I ask, are you a recovering MLC'er?
I read lots of boards (and other literature) on MLC and I have never heard it put quite like that...."the destiny of the marriage is in the LBS hands".
By the way, I know beyond a shadow of a doubt, that my H is in incredible pain. In his earnest attempt to recapture his youth, he is aging rapidly. He doesn't sleep, he is unhappy, and is clearly depressed. He thinks it all stems from his relationship with me. Yet, I make no demands. I give him his space. I don't question him. I treat him with respect, even when not reciprocated. I don't consider myself a doormat. I have to view this situation as though he were ill....afterall clinical depression is an illness.
