My H has always been like that just says what he wants to say without regard for feelings. So I shouldn't expect any different at this point. And, I HAVE noticed some subtle changes in H lately so there is hope. H is trying.
I made H's lunch for him this morning and when I talked to him this morning H wanted to know what I used for mayo and was it old, it tasted funny? I said it was "light" mayo. H said oh, "I started eating and then realized it tasted funny and threw it out" Then added I've been sick too many times from things I've eaten. THIS is the exact reason I STOPPed making lunches for him to begin with, they weren't ever good enough. However, I quickly changed the subject to these awful sandwiches his mom made for us a long time ago, we all pitched those sandwiches, they were awful. So another positive for me I didn't take H's attack on my sandwich's personally, it's just my H. I am determined to PERFECT my sandwich making skills to H's liking.