Yes, I understand that it MIGHT as well be snoop but not necessarily has to be. My W tends to be someone who wears her heart and thoughts on her sleeve. I think I know her fairly well and while I am always aware that one day I could wake up and realize that she's a totally different person than I thought, for now I'm going with "I know her". That means I can learn a LOT from simple observation. If I can refrain from constantly talking to her about all this, I can probably tell a lot more about what's going on.
I know she has "tells" in terms of lying, etc. I also know she's a VERY private person. That's been from day one, and has never changed. So the snooping game, for my particular sitch, whether there's anything to find or not, WILL do spectacular damage if uncovered.
Sure, I may be justified, and even may snoop but I will make that choice only when it's basically to confirm something my spidey sense is telling me is 99% already a fact. Otherwise, and I learned this the hard way, you end up with 1/2 facts and part of the story. The rest that my mind makes up is almost always much worse than reality. I have a really good imagination
Thanks again Jack. While I suppose this should be the hardest day in a long time (with W gone), it's been one of the best lately.
Oh, and she's managed to call 3 times, not to mention the 4 missed calls from when she tried to call during lunch. Quite a change. Normally I am lucky to get one call a day. Don't have a freaking clue what that means but it's better than usual.
