Yup.. if they would for a second realize the truth of the situation and man up for a change, they would be in a better place.. they just don't get it. you can blame all you want.. but unless you take some responsibility and deal with the problems, they aren't going to disappear...
ugh.
I am Court.. I am at a point of my life where I know I'll be just fine either way..
Hugs to you...
I agree. I have recieved a ton of TM recently from my WAS. The majority were her blaming me for where we are. Pretty sure I didn't make the decision for her to cheat and leave. I have no intention of taking responsibilty for her choices. And all it does is strengthen my resolve. Clearly, no real remorse yet.
I don't know if I'll ever see remorse from my H as far as him breaking down and apologizing repeatedly. He is more of a DOer. The only time I saw any was when we R the first real time back in November/December. He broke down and admitted that he couldn't even believe himself that he did it and that he didn't trust himself.
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
