I'm back and looking for insight

[newmama]

Hi, Laura, just checking out your sitch. About the counselors...
it takes awhile to find the right ones. I'm sure you are familiar with "transference" where the patient develops feelings for the counselor exactly for the reasons you described. But all counselors are aware of this phenomenon, too. I suspect the counselor who was being sexually explicit with you was trying to see if you would respond to HIM- good job quitting! Gross- I think it is unethical of him to have spoken to you like that.


I have a male counselor. When I told him that I was trying to make sure that WH sees my weight loss and sees me looking my best and wearing clothes that flatter my figure, he said "well, if I can say this without getting in trouble, you are doing a great job!" I said thank you. I consider that to be an appropriate way of giving me a compliment that isn't crossing boundaries!!

GREAT JOB not reacting to your H when he brought up L! And for being so strong about saying stuff like "I want a good marriage-if not for you and me, the next one!" and telling him about the C!