i completely forgot to mention that last week, H was in a major accident...his convertible was totaled but he walked away with a minor scratch. after seeing the car, it's really a miracle he wasn't injured more. at first he treated it like no big deal...he didn't even call to tell me what happened!...but i just kept telling him that i was glad he was ok. went to the hospital later just to get everything checked out and he kept saying how he felt like he was burdening me cause i came. but i told him i wanted to be there (which i did!) and again that i was glad he was ok. he woke up in the middle of the night and was like if the accident had happened two seconds later, the car would have hit me on my driver side and i could have been dead. since then, he's been processing and decided that he's not getting another luxury car. he feels like it was kind of a godsend that the accident happened and a lesson in his ego. i've been listening and validating and it's since this accident that he started being really nice and tender to me again. from his end, lots of joking around, spending time, talking and opening up.
i'm not holding my breath (as i've learned from past experience) but just trying to reflect his mood.
