We'll it's clear that my wife is truly torn between her husband/family and her lover. She has asked him for space (which I doubt he is giving). and is truly confused on where to go. I personally feel that a retro weekend is the only thing I would consider at this point. W constantly flip flops between fantasy and reality, and truth and lies.
I guess that's why you don't find something better and then end your marriage. My W is the only person I have been in love with, and the only person I have ever had sex with. I have managed to stay completely faithful for the entire 7 months of our separation. If that ain't love, I don't know what is.
I am completely over our toxic relationship and am ready to give love another shot. I have a couple of fine young ladies interested in me and I think that I should just let myself go to see what happens. I just can't wait forever.
You want your wife to make a decision? Really? Why do you hold her to a standard that you can't hold yourself too?
Should I stay or should I go?
Haven't I proven my love to her? I've been faithful all this time?
This is all needy, insecure and approval seeking.
You have to look at this from another point of view. This is her loss.
You are allowing her to make the decision on whether or not she should choose you or the OM.
You make the decision.
You don't allow her to make the decision on whether she gets to choose you or the OM. Why do you make her a priority in your life when she is only making you an option in her life?
Forget about retro.
Too much is mentioned on this forum about retro and truth be told this is really only help for couples that are still together and questioning if they should stay together, you aren't going to get any assistance with your marriage while your wife is having an affair.
You want to get her interested? You want her to jump ship and come back to you? You've given her nothing to jump to, you've given her nothing to want, she has you and she knows it, she could come back anytime and you would take her. Unfortunately that's boring and don't spout marriage vows and other such nonsense, they're no longer applicable since you're wife's been gone and having an affair.
You really want her to take notice.
Tell her she can have him. Tell her you're done. And then don't tell her that you're dating and seeing other women. Don't tell her you're moving on with your life. Don't answer her texts or emails the same day unless it's an emergency. Let her stew a bit wondering what you're up to.
