My H always wanted to know what I was doing, who I went with, when did I get home, it was frustrating, but I had nothing to hide so I told him. I was told that H did this because H was afraid I would move on w/o H. H told me from the start of this that "he didn't know what he was doing" and also told OW the same thing. I did believe him when H told me this, up until last Friday he event said this My H can be very honest, sometimes brutally, and once he makes a decision he'll do it.
Quote: Anyway, all I can say is PATIENCE. Clearly, if you start asking questions, you may drive him out again. Something brought him home. That is a positive. I would say (and, as you know, I am not in your situation) no R talks. I think as women, and as the LBS we want to fix things, to ensure that it won't happen again, to talk, etc. But we can't go there. We can't even get in the same neighborhood. The A has to burn itself out. You can be loving, funny, etc. Be you. But live your life.
This is where I get confused. I read that an A must end in order for the marriage to heal. So now that H is home, I just ASSume H should go cold turkey, but then every situation is a little different.
You're right something did bring him home, so I just need to keep being ME and patience, patience, and more patience.
I wonder what OW is going to do with her bass boat now considering she doesn't even fish....she just poaches other women's property .
I think my H did stay here last night as there is a Culver's bag in the trash. Welllll, I smelled something funny in the trash (it was relativle new bag) and so I looked!! There's also a dirty plate by the sink. So I am now pretty confident of that, whether he saw her last night or not well that doesn't matter.
