[Truegritter]

NLG

Remember the problems in your M didn't happen overnight and they won't be fixed overnight either.

I somehow feel you are not paying attention to her signs: private, no affection, not letting you see her unclothed, staying at friends house a coincidence?

Just because you try to convince yourself things are what they are don't make it so. She has had an A and IF she wants to make a go of the M she should be concerned with YOUR trust issues and WANT to convince of this by being transparent.

The fact that she doesn't offer that or refuses it concerns me.

However, you are in a power struggle with her and the A was to take back power. Extremely selfish but it is a battle for another day.

IMO she is not in this with both feet. Right now YOU are doing the pushing -MC, about A, etc.

I might suggest you pull back a bit. I said this a couple of posts ago. If she doesn't really want MC right now then don't push it. Step back and be cool and calm and say you know what You're right it might not be the right time for us to do this let's give it some time to settle in. You tell me when you think it's the right time.

Do nothing to manipulate her. It might be hard because she is detached from you. Her A and the years of the perceived injustices by you have pushed her there.

All you have gotten from her is words. No comittement. No actions to R

You need to keep focusing on you. Your changes.