"I wonder what those who reconciled or didn't reconcile think about that. Should your spouse if caught have to spend 3 months in jail or community service for a year?"
For what.. hurting your feelings?
An affair is a poor choice.. a character flaw.
If you "jail" them for doing that.. what can you go to "jail" for?
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.