I plan to keep the focus on myself. I have no choice really for my own sanity. I feel compassion for what my H is going thru right now and this life I am living now is a new one so the adjustment will take time. I do look at these instances as icing on the cake but too much icing ruins the cake. When he responds to my changes it makes detaching that much more difficult. I know what has to be done. It still doesn't mean I have to like it. I've needed detachment in plenty areas of my life and have been quite successful so I know i can make it through this. Being a co-dependent person I must watch for my controlling ways from rearing their ugly head.
