WAW is so...I really do not know what to say or do about this sitch anymore. I just really do not care that much anymore about the M, but I still do not want D.
Man, do I understand. It is exhausting, isn't it? What can we do but detach and be strong. I really wish I could fully detach. That seems to be the key here. Not worry about the outcome of the sitch while working on ourselves to be better a better person, therefore and better husband and father.
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but I need to be in a better position financially
While I do have a full time job, we have made sacrifices for the sake of raising the kids and the family. My W works part time and I have a 40 mile drive to work. We live in the mid west and things are tough here as they are all over. I have a small inheritance from my Grandmother that is sitting in the bank. It is supposed to remain untouched. I would hate to use it for something like a D. It's for our kids. My parents have offered to help, but I hate doing that too, you know?
The point is, being short on money makes the pressure even worse.
As hard as it is to accept, all we can do is stand up for ourselves, for what is right and best for the kids, and not let our W walk all over us.
If it comes down to a D, do you have any family to help out? We need all the support we can get and family is always there for us. For me, anyway. I know that's not the case all the time. Don't be ashamed to ask for help. Things will get better, as hard as that is to believe right now. If I lost my job tomorrow, I don't know if I would be so confident. I work for a car dealership, so that is always a possibility.
Hang in there and thanks for your continued support.
