Did he agree to do this for you? If you haven't heard from him. Leave it alone and try to find someone else to do. Biggest reason is it's not such a great idea to rely on someone in MLC. Also you need to show him (and yourself) that you are self sufficient. Don't call him!
was theotherhalf M43 H43 M22 T25 MLC/OW bomb 4/07 Hmoved out 8/07 D6/09 Still trying to accept and move on...
I did see him. I invited him over for dinner and we had a really nice time. we talked. i spoke with a DB coach before, so i didn't talk about the relationship. we laughed and talked. why couldn't we talk this way when we were together??? wtf? It's so sad when he leaves because we didn't even hug. When we first split up he was so affectionate with me so it feel like we are back tracking. are we? why no hug... I'm scared. neither one of us are wearing our rings. he's going to be in our hom while i'm gone. i guess that a good thing, right? maybe he will get comfortable.... I miss him so much. he looked so good and we got along so well that i almost question whether we are better off friends. God, this is so hard. how do you kow if what you're doing is working? i mean how much does the contact on a psysical level mean? he left on a good note i think, i mean it was loaded with yuckiness because we didn't touch, but I think he had a good time.... I just feel like he is headed towards an amicable divorce where as i want reconciliation, and without discussign it, how the hell do i know??
our interaction has gone from a very sexual one to a friendly one. is that more distance or is it good? it just seems like we are both kind of slowly letting go.
I did this "friend" thing for a long time. X came and went as he pleased. All it did was keep me from moving on. I found myself watching way too close. I found hope in every tiny thing he did. The way he looked at me. The way he said something. Etc... in the end it was all my imagination. I drove myself half crazy.
Stop trying to guess why he did/didn't do something. What he is doing. You cannot. He doesn't even know. If it's friends for now. let it be. Appreciate it. Don't put any more thought into it. Concentrate on YOU and YOUR life. WITHOUT your H.
was theotherhalf M43 H43 M22 T25 MLC/OW bomb 4/07 Hmoved out 8/07 D6/09 Still trying to accept and move on...
ditto what was-TOH said................it's hard to hear....I was given the same advice and just KNEW it was wrong.....concentrate on you.
A wise DB'er once (or more than once) told me that desperate and needy is not attractive......working on yourself is all YOU can do. You will become a better YOU, and if it is meant to be/H comes around, he will be more attracted to you and your M. BUT --- do not have the mindset that by doing this he WILL come back----because there are no guarantees, there is not magic pill, there is no RIGHT way to do this. The only guarantee is that you will be OK - with or without your H, so find a way to be the best you you can be!
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
I would have sworn to anybody on anything that my H and I would beat MLC/OW and all of it and my H would one day return home and we'd save our M. It did not happen. If I had only knew, If only someone could have gotten through to me. I would have done things SOOOO differently! I would have saved myself and my children alot of permanent damage.
was theotherhalf M43 H43 M22 T25 MLC/OW bomb 4/07 Hmoved out 8/07 D6/09 Still trying to accept and move on...
