Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. it's not saying that you're going to FORGET.. It's saying that you are going to let go of the hurt and not let it weight you down and rather, you are going to let yourself live and move on.
i guess i still struggle to acheive getting to the point where i can move on and not weigh me down...i think i am getting better but not sure if i will ever get totally to that point and it kind of scares me.
I fought so hard for her not knowing about the A - once the A was out in open and she realised how OM used her, she returned to me....but i don't know if i should be fighting any more after what she did...i love my W and my family, hence my struggle.
strange thing life is....
gman
Listen,
It's definitely a difficult thing to do but I will tell you that it'll get rid of so much resentment, hate and anger you have built up.
I can understand what you're feeling 100%. I feel the same way. I look at my H and sometimes think "why am I doing this?" "how could you do this to us? I was willing to fight for our family and do whatever it takes, but why did you have to turn to someone else?" "Why did you give up on me?" etc., it's a constant battle and the pain DOES lessen over time. You will be able to control the mental movies and they will decrease with time.
Hang in there my friend.. hugs
M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
