Most of us wouldn't or couldn't smother her if she was being our wife. A WAW is an entirely different createure. Imagine it if you will as someone elses woman who is not really fealing you, or as a "normal woman" who is not "yours" and you don't necessarily have a good stature with her.
For now its not your wife. Thats the point. The other point is since thats how it really is, that its very hard to get her to see you in a H role.
