He's Loving the Freedom of the 180 - Now What?

[june72]

Whatnow is correct, I believe.
Hire a PI and gather as much evidence to produce to court as possible.

You need to PROTECT yourself and your children from this man with his addictive behavior.

If he is controlling the money, there is no other choice. He has proven to you time and time again in excess of 3 years that he is untrustworthy.

I mean he is not much of a husband now anyhow, right? Coming home late. Not interacting with you. Does he even make time for the kids?

So, if you can file for seperation in your state, I think you need to do so. If you can move to another area or at least have him out of the house.

Honetly, I think it would be emotionally healthy for you to have a break from all of this and have som e IC for you to see where the line stand for you.


I mean to the point where he and OW are filing charges against you and he is siding with the OW. Wow! I think it is time to re-evaluate if you can see reconcilliation occuing in your marriage. I mean not him coming back to you but YOU even wanting him back at this point.


Sincerely, I believe this womanis also having sex with him. If they are in his office for hours on end and with th ebehavior and thought pattern she exhibits.....


People here talk about boundaries and counsequences. So you would not be attempting to control the situation but state what YOU can not tolerate and the result of it.

ie. "If you decide to continue with her, I will be forced to leave" "You can do with your life as you please, I can not longer life in an open marraige..."


I'm sure others can word it better.


This man to feel real CONSEQUENCES or the status quo will never change.


You can state that while you love him and still want to work on the marriage, you have no choice but to file. If he decides he would like a second chance that will be steps that he has to take.


I mean, right now, is really a husband for you? Is he in involved and loving?

What are you willing to accept after 3 plus years of this.....