Been thinking about this thread for a while, digesting what has been written .
I keep coming back to the same thing here.....
IF....You have been selling yourself to the marriage...
Then you really haven't found YOU....
And the possibility of setting any kind of boundary is fruitless unless you know exactly who you are.
What you can accept
What you cannot
It's like Stevie Wonder tryin to catch fireflies....
You are somewhere between the old you (pre-bomb) , and the you that did the work a while ago, and the two are struggling between what used to be and your vision of what you want.
That is why your boundaries are unclear, and waiver so much.
Maybe this weekend that she wants could be a good thing for BOTH of you...
Piecing is learning to trust again....Trust BUT verify.
It would also give you some time to really sort out where you are in this right now.
At the end of the weekend, you at least will know which path is for you..
I know you want to save this. And I hope the best for your marriage.
I also don't really care about your marriage, I care about GH healing and becoming the person he wants/needs to be for GH...
